RED PILL EXAMPLE - Coffee date Vs Dinner date

 

When you think of the words "first date" one of the images that come into your head is that of a man taking a woman out to dinner at a nice restaurant, paying for everything and hoping to "get lucky". We see this all the time on films, TV shows and online dating adverts. Women will often state directly "it's what men should do", despite the fact that some men will often go for cheaper/simpler options in the modern era such as coffee.

There are two variables to consider.

A cheap date (coffee) Vs an expensive date (dinner)
A woman's interest in the man can be high or lukewarm.

Expensive date / Woman's interest is lukewarm.
Although a woman is not that into the man she will often still go along with the date for the free food. A third of the women you date are only in it for free food: study (nypost.com) Even worse is the fact that a lot of women have friends with benefits. They will use one guy for food and entertainment, send him on his way then spend the night with another man who doesn't care about or do anything for her. This scenario is a lot more common than most men are comfortable with.

Cheap date / Woman's interest is lukewarm.
The easiest way around the above situation is to refuse to take her on an expensive date in the first place. If a woman's interest is high she will agree to something simple. If she is pushing you to take her out for dinner, you stand your ground and refuse and she loses interest. Congratulations you have just weeded out a timewaster and a gold digger.

Expensive date / Woman's interest is High.
In the old days men HAD to take women out on expensive and demonstrate extensively their long term provider abilities before they got anywhere near a woman's bedroom door. Today many women will have sex with a random stranger within hours of meeting him at a bar or club. Modern dating coaches have discovered that spending lots of money before sex will put you into the "provider" category in her mind and will increase the amount of time/effort/money it takes before having sex with her. Women's Three Buttons - Alpha Male 2.0 (alphamale20.com)

Cheap date / Woman's interest is High.

This is the best outcome, once a sexual relationship has been established then you can take her out on expensive dates but not before. (and don't overdo it).

Conclusion.
Over many years men went out on dates making notes about what worked with women and what didn't. They didn't listen to what women said by went by their actions. Women complain about men not taking them out on proper dates but won't complain about the other women who use men for the free food or give sex on the first date.