NIGHTLIFE - WHY IT'S DYING

 

"Back in 2002 the game I needed consisted of rubbing my crotch against a girls ass while dancing, having short banal conversations, then getting her number. Not only is that type of game insufficient today it may get you kicked out of the nightclub" : Roosh V

Nightlife is dying, I was inspired to write this after the closure of Tiger Tiger in Piccadilly London of all places. I also have a 21 year old male cousin who rarely goes out at the weekend. When I was the same age I was practically racing home from work on Friday evenings so I could go out. This is not unique to the UK with similar stories from North America, Australia and the rest of Europe.

Men go out to get women. That's the bottom line, yes socialising, getting drunk and enjoying the music are all factors. However the presence of large numbers young, single, attractive women creates an environment where men have the best chance. A lot of men simply wouldn't be there otherwise. Bar and club owners have known this for generations. Letting women in for free on "ladies nights" will pay for itself by encouraging men who spend the money.

Why nightlife is dying today.

Dating sites/apps. In the past a woman risked slut judgement from friends, family, co-workers when leaving the club with a random man she'd met on the dance floor. Now she can hook up online easily, meet him where nobody knows her and the rest of the world would be none the wiser.

Fewer women are out as a result. I can't remember the last time I was out at midnight with more than 40% of the people being female. Ratios of 2,3 or even 4 men to 1 woman is not unusual. As well as making it much more difficult for the men it has a negative effect on the remaining women. Sensing their power, even unattractive women become more bitchy and demanding.

Average men don't have a chance today. I was no Casanova back in the late 1990s / early 2000s. However I did get the occasional relationship, one night stand, drunken kiss or phone number. Young with hormones raging, this was enough to keep me going out and spending large amounts of money in bars and clubs. Today thanks to dating apps even below average women think they are entitled to the top few percent of men.

Getting a woman's phone number now means nothing. In the pre internet era around 25 - 50% of phone numbers I obtained resulted in meeting her again. Today she could have dozens of other men messaging her via dating apps and social media. If she perceives just one of them to be a better option then you are out.

The definition of harassment has drastically changed. By all means men who grope women or don't take no for an answer fully deserve to get kicked out a club by security. Today merely attempting a conversation with a woman is risky (if you are in the bottom 80% of male attractiveness). Organisations like #helpafriend produce posters telling men that subjecting to a women to go to a quiet place so they talk is "sexual abuse". How do they think their own parents met ????????
Even glancing in her direction is now risky, see the depressing video by huMAN Oh, Come On... Are You Serious?! - YouTube In short, minor misunderstandings that in the past would have got you warned off by her friend now result in you getting kicked out of the club or even facing criminal charges. 
If this happens to a young inexperienced man then it's obviously going to discourage him from ever approaching women again. Instead sitting at home playing video games and contributing to our society's crashing birth rates. 

Covid lockdowns and the subsequent restrictions forced people to adopt new habits. Having drinks at home bars literally became the "new normal". It's a help of a lot cheaper to drink at home. A lot of people simply didn't go back to their old habits.

Economics. Nightclubs and bars massively increased their prices to get back the money they lost during covid. Combined with the general state of the economy many people simply can't afford to go out.

TOXIC MASCULINITY - A FEW QUESTIONS

"If all women categorically refused to sleep with violent criminals, male crime would drop by 80-90% overnight"

The majority of UK primary school teachers are female, with a third not having a single male teacher. There has also been a massive increase in the number of boys being raised by single mothers. Could it be that lack of masculinity rather than "toxic masculinity" is the actual problem ?

The above mentioned female teachers show obvious bias against boys and give lower grades for the same standard of work. When even the BBC admits this you know there's a problem. Why is there no backlash against this instead of blaming boys all the time ?

I was often ridiculed at school especially around the age of 13 -14 for things such as. Being socially awkward, having unusual hobbies and my parents not being able to afford fashionable clothing. Why is this behaviour considered "toxic" when it comes out the mouths of other boys but not from girls of which there were plenty ?

A common example given of "toxic masculinity" is male violence against females. Why is this taken and punished more seriously than other forms of violence ? For example
* A group of people ganging up on a single person.
* A bigger stronger person hitting a smaller weaker person.
* A female hitting a male, usually it's the male gets punished when he acts in self defence.

Why is male violence and aggression condemned as "toxic" by women who will then complain if men don't use violence to protect them against an aggressive attacker ?

A common example given of "toxic masculinity" is telling boys that "real men cry and open up about their feelings". So why was it when I did this at school I was often mocked and ridiculed by the FEMALE TEACHERS I reported bullying to for many years ? Numerous social experiments show that when a male shows weakness at the hands of a female he is mocked and ridiculed Social experiment into men and women abusing each other in public. "Male abuser" is instantly stopped. People pile on him. "Female abuser" is encouraged, people join in & smile.

Why are issues like the above completely ignored in favour of blaming "toxic masculinity" or "boys not crying" ?

Is there going to be a higher level of toxic masculinity lessons given to migrants from non-Western cultures who have a drastically different view of women, if not why not ? Like certain groups of people who fly planes into buildings or drive trucks into crowds of marketgoers. 

Why is there no backlash against women who actively reward some of the most genuinely toxic men in society such as murderers, drug dealers and other criminals? From Ted Bundy to Charles Manson: Why women fall in love with serial killers - Mirror Online 

Why do those who promote so-called "healthy masculinity" always consist of placing the female above the male in all situations, never being aggressive or dominating the conversation?

Give examples of where men can openly criticise female behaviour WITHOUT being labelled "toxic" or "misogynistic"?

The modern man is bombarded with the message that he should be an emotionally open, nice guy on the feminist path. Only to be ignored, ridiculed, friend-zoned and used for resources by women. A third of the women you date are only in it for free food: study (nypost.com). Some of these, out of anger and frustration, look for help at the Incel sites on 4chan or turn to genuinely toxic men like Andrew Tate. By labelling normal male behaviours as "toxic", you are ultimately creating the very monster you are trying to avoid. How would you respond to this?

Every time women complain about men, it's the beta males. Yes, they cry about Chad pumping and dumping them, but they see no issues with Chad. They never badmouth Chad in any way, shape, or form, except for crying about being dumped. But for the beta males, it's all toxic masculinity, incel, misogynists, etc. Why have I heard the term "toxic hookup culture" from the left or women in general?

If a man announces that he prefers playing video games to playing rugby, why is it "toxic masculinity" for other men to mock him for rejecting a traditionally masculine activity? But perfectly acceptable for women to mock him for playing video games?

Why is it wrong for men to judge women on their sexual history but perfectly fine for women to use the word INCEL as an insult against men, regardless of whether it's actually true or not?

Why is so-called "slut shaming" not an issue when women do it to each other?

Why is it "toxic" for men to brag about bedding loads of women when it literally takes "2 to tango"? Women often have no issues dating men full of the knowledge they have used and discard dozens of other women previously.

Your bank, insurance company and employer will judge you on your past for obvious reasons. Why is it "toxic masculinity" for men to judge women on their past? Especially when choosing a lifelong partner with the potential to bring children into the world with them. The consequences of getting it wrong are severe. 

Toxic Masculinity: Definition and Examples (verywellmind.com)