CAROUSEL

 

"The top tier of most desirable men are more than happy to use average women for one-night stands and short to medium-term relationships but will never stick around long term".
"Average women delude themselves into thinking that because a 'hot guy' will sleep with them, they can also get that type of guy to commit long term" 

In the old days, when people married young and most people got married, there was assorted mating. Top men married top women, average men married average women, below below-average men married below-average women. This gradually faded with the sexual revolution, then was mostly eliminated with dating sites and hookup apps.

Today, the top tier of men (less than 20%) get the lion's share of the women. Unattractive women now have access to more attractive men than they could have ever hoped for in the past. The catch is that they will often only get him for one night. Women assume that because a “hot guy” will have sex with them, they can get such a man to commit. He becomes her standard by which future men are measured. This is why her past is so important.

Women will often squander the prime years of their lives engaging in short-term relationships with high-status men at the expense of long-term happiness and stability. She dates obvious players and bad boys, then acts totally shocked when the relationship fails. Average men who would make good husbands, good dads and would give her a lifetime of commitment are frequently rejected or used as placeholders.

The party doesn't last forever, as she hits middle age, she becomes aware that the dating scene is slowly replacing her with younger, more attractive women. She has 2 brutal options, the first one being to stay single and continue engaging in these increasingly unfulfilling short-term relationships. Eventually becoming a bitter cat lady on antidepressants.

She will often be under social pressure to settle down, such as from her parents. Her friends might all be getting married off, or she needs a responsible man to help raise her children from previous failed relationships. The only way she can do this is by massively reducing her standards. In other words, dating a man whom she wouldn't have given the time of day to during her prime years. Years of “punching above her weight” have given her a false sense of her own attractiveness, which then carries over into future relationships. She settles for Mr Average with a mixture of regret and resentment.

She makes him wait for sex: “I want to get to know you better”, “It’s special, so it can wait”. It can go on date after date. It’s a test to see if he's a thirsty beta male. If he waits, he's “passed” the test. A woman is using her sexuality against the man in a kind of delayed revenge against the men who lured her via Tingles. Mr Average gets the payback, blue balls, and becomes the spreadsheet husband. All as a “reward” for being the decent man who's good enough to stick around and support her kids. It was the players and bad boys who got the blind loyalty and first date sex.

A woman’s carousel behaviour has altered her relationship approach permanently. It carries over into later life and creates massive headaches and unwanted behaviour.

The cumulative psychological toll of being used and discarded by dozens of men has left a permanent sense of bitterness against men. A woman's subconscious instinct has been programmed over millennia to never lash out against alphas (for fear of consequence); she feels she can displace her anger (from a different set of men) on the man she settles with. He will pay the price for all the times she got charmed by the player, only to get ghosted or later discover he was also banging 3 other women.

She insecurely raids his phone “because she’s been 'hurt before”, wants to know which girls he spends time with, cuts off friendships with single male friends, and more, all in over-compensation for her relationship failures with more ‘prolific’ men before.

After spending her 20s dating hot studs, waking up next to Mr Average every morning simply doesn't do it for her. She's an Alpha Widow, forever pining over top-tier men she couldn’t keep. Like a ex junkie with a dealer on every corner (social media, dating apps, text messaging) she will flirt with these men and be totally unapologetic about it, or even acting on it. Her cheating will be justified on an “amazing connection” she felt with a guy; any BS post-hoc rationalisation to justify the drug-like high of Tingles that she refuses to stare down in her sexual prime, and now has become an addiction.

A traditional long-term relationship cannot be built on a modern woman’s carousel mindset.